how i feel...

sometimes, the words of other people are enough to express what we really mean....

**For someone**

in our effort to find the love of our life, we exert all of our strength in making our relationships work.. and upon doing this we become oblivious to other things that matter.. sometimes neglecting our priorities in life, our responsibilities –with other people as well as to ourselves.. in a relationship that we put so much work we fail to recognize the inequality even though we clearly know that most of the effort comes only from one side –our own.. then in that case, we are holding on to someone whose not suppose to be ours.. telling ourselves “we are happy and our future will be perfect”.. we are insistent and foolish for we hold on to a fairy tale.. we cannot coach them to stay however convincing we may be.. for this someone is meant to leave us and fulfill their calling –away from us.. there are numerous reasons why this person is not meant for you.. he/she might be looking for a different thing –something you don’t possess or cannot offer, he/she might be attached or already committed, or perhaps you are already in the point in your life when you want to be serious and settle down while he/she wants to play some more and experience what it likes to look around.. i know, this will be unbearable.. but we must let them go or else we will be stuck with someone who is unhappy with us and someday might blame us for caging them.. and when this happens, the misery that they will feel towards us will drain the life out of the relationship and we will be left broken and helpless.. and there is no one to blame but ourselves.. the hardest part in this situation is recognizing when to let go and when to turn your back on this person who became a part of your life.. but bear in mind, in the long run we will be doing ourselves a favor for letting go early, instead of holding on until such point when we have given out all of our love and energy and accomplished nothing, and much worst received nothing in return.. this is where characters are polished, for it takes courage to recognize if that someone is not for you.. and you must have great virtue to let go of that someone whom you enjoyed loving.. but believe me, when i say this, and this is true.. after going through this ordeal you will emerge a better person and loose all the selfishness in you.. and in the future, when you see this love that you let go, happy and content, i’m sure you will be relieved for you have done the right thing.. however unclear it may be to you now.. this is how the universe unfolds.. and remember these people are merely episodes in our lives.. look on the greater side and be happy that of all the people in this planet he/she stopped on your doorstep.. the visit might be brief.. but the memories will stay even if you find another person who will finally make you happy.. and no one can take that away..

--borrowed from Sham